Friday, February 24, 2012

A Day Out With My Lil Man

Since my extended maternity leave has been approved, one of my main aim is to spend more alone quality time with this adorable little boy :) So last Tuesday Ryan skipped "skool" so that we can have a Mummy and Abang Funny Funday :)
We started the day with yummy breakfast :)
Had a bit of an exercise and breathe of fresh air at our crib, playing in his playhouse. Later Ryan helped mummy with the housework and we got cleaned up and got ready to go out to Curve for out date :)
I brought him to YuKids Island and we had a fabulous time in the playground. I love the settings, it is a bit different from the normal indoor playground we usually find in the malls. After about 1 1/2 hour later, we had lunch at McDs and went home.

Later we spent the remaining time before picking up adik cuddling in front of the TV :D I don't know about you Ryan, but mummy had so much fun... Love you cheeky cheeks :p

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Sama Tak Serupa :)

Everytime someone visits me and the twins, one unavoidable question that they would asked me is "How do you tell them apart?" My answer?? "By the clothes they are wearing" hahaha

Physically for non identical twins Iman and Ranya looks quite similar. In the middle of the night when I'm sleepy and mamai, I can't be ask to tell the difference :p but if you look closely Iman features are slightly rounder. Iman is also slightly bigger though Ranya is catching up real fast. It also helps that Ranya has a strawberry mark on her tummy, so if people gets too confused, we'll just flip open her clothes hahaha

It is quite funny because people at home are always confused over who's who. This is where wearing different coloured clothing comes in handy but a day won't be completed without someone calling Iman - Ranya or vice versa.

It may seem like a trivial thing, but identifying which twin is which is quite important for feeding time (you don't want to be feeding the same twin twice) or at times when we have to administer medicine. So me the "mandur" would need to be on top of things all the time.

To help the carers at the daycare to identify the twins I got Iman and Ranya customise bracelets . It is just a simple string bracelet with beads spelling their name. Cute and comfortable with no allergy triggers. Very important elements while choosing baby accessories.

The twins are also different temperament wise. Iman is more lemah lembut and manja while Ranya is the more active twin. Lan told me once that if he want to differentiate the twin lying side by side he'll just see the hands movement. The girl who's more animated is more likely to be Ranya :)

The process of getting to know the girls better is the same as it is with other babies. The only difference is I have to learned about two babies at once. The main challenge is despite looking similar they are two separate individuals with different preference. I can't wait when the girls are a bit older and are able to choose their own favourite food and clothes. That would be a fun battle to fight :p hehehehe

Next post: Funday with Ryan :p (bilalah nak find the time to blog ni, I'm actually typing this post via BB while brestfeeding Iman at the same time)

Thursday, February 2, 2012

Mode: Separation Anxiety

I'm currently home alone.

Today is Iman and Ranya's second day in "skool". After much discussion with Lan, my mum and the twins second main day caretaker which is my dad :p We've decided that the girls would be going to the same daycare as Ryan.

I'm planning on an extended no-pay 30 days maternity leave, which I have no idea whether it has been approve yet ;p if it is indeed approve (pray to Allah that it will) I'm planning to rotate taking care of each child alone with me a week. For example : Monday with Iman, Wednesday with Ranya and Friday with Ryan. So each kid will have quality time with mummy.

Lan and I are slowly getting the groove of being a parent of 3 children. The main challenge is trying to meet the needs of Iman and Ranya while making sure that Ryan does not feel left out. Sometimes I feel really horrible because I know that no matter how Lan and I try to be the best parents to our kids something will still fall short.

The best example I can give you is this, Iman HATES to be bottle fed be it EBM or formula so when I'm with her she will insist on direct feeding, which really sucks for Ranya because she will have less time with me. I'm lucky that my youngest baby is quite understanding as she will drink milk from the bottle with less fuss, however there are times when Ranya needs attention the same time when I'm tending to Iman. The worst part is if they only want comfort from ME despite having 3-5 other adults at home, so one starts crying and the other will start screaming too. When all this is happening, sometimes I admit Ryan will be sidelined since everyone aim is to make sure that the twins will stop crying. so that is when the 3rd tantrum from Ryan will start. So i end making all 3 unhappy, which is kinda depressing if you think about it

I do try not to dwell on things I can't change. My main aim is to give my children the best and going all bipolar about things will not help anyone. Of course there's going to be shortcomings on my part, I expect a lot of things to get harder before things get easier : triple expenses, triple pain and sufferings, triple fever and sleepless nights, triple snot sucking, triple bedtime tantrums etc but at the same time I've been blessed with three gorgeous kids who can made my day with their smiles, incoherent gurgles and the most adorable antics.

When things get really tough and I think I can't go on, I try to remind myself that Allah will not test someone beyond their capabilities and when I was in Mecca I remember ending each prayer for Allah to give me what he thinks is best for me even if that is not what I initially wanted, so if my creator have given me the very best, who am I to question his faith in me. Anyway, nothing that is truly worth it comes easy,right?

Ok since tengah mode jiwang (or more like separation anxiety) I would like to dedicate this para from the song Sedetik Lebih to my 3 munckins. For some reason everytime I listen to the song it totally reminded me of them...

"Di kala penuh ketakutan dengan badai kehidupan
Ku bersyukur adanya kamu
Biarlah kehilangan semua yang dimiliki di dunia
Asal masih adanya kamu

Ternyata ku perlukan cinta dari dirimu sayang
Barulah terasa ku bernyawa
Kasihku ku amat mencintai kamu
Kerana kau beri erti hidup
Ku kan terus mencinta sedetik lebih selepas selamanya"