Monday, August 10, 2009

The one on having to deal with fools....


"We need to work on all good relationship. However if too much work is involved and no sense of love and trust exist it will be just a chore"

You know how you're thrown in the company of "some people" and you are forced to deal with their behaviour? It could be that annoying cousin that you are inconveniently related to, a colleague or a classmate. No matter how you try, you just can't make yourself "click". It is nobody's fault as you can't create "connection" so you just tolerated them.

Technically, the fact that the person is around or not does not make much difference to you. You don't really want to share your good news with them or trust them with your deepest darkest secret. In summary the person has no real impact in your life and to be fair the other person may not feel the connection with you too...

The thing about relationships, you are willing to deal with the other person bad behaviour because you know at the end of the day there is a certain trait in the other person that would be able to make you smile or cheer you up. However, when you have no sense of loyalty in the other person, dealing with their horrible behaviour is just a torturous chore.

Imagine having to put up hearing with their angst and anger (oh there are many, believe me) but they won't do the same for you in return, or having to deal with them being unable to share the joy of your good news and triumph. They'll be all negative and competitive over every little thing and sometimes you even wonder why they even hang out with you if they disapprove of how you live your life so much.

Some people would say, confront them maybe they don't realised what they're doing. However, you just can't be bothered because you know what you say won't gel. They won't be able to accept you criticism because they are so overly sensitive. Deep down you also know, the relationship with this person is not worth the hassle of a confrontation (they are THAT insignificant in your life).

I won't say that I'm deeply trouble with this current obstacle. However, I find it very helpful to blog about it to ensure that I won't end up throwing my files at the persons head due to pent up anger. I just find it exhausting sometimes to be walking on egg shells trying to "jaga hati" someone that I don't like that much as a friend (Ironic isn't it?)

I just wish the person would lay off criticizing about my baby and pregnancy. It is one thing to be all irritating to me, but to keep on offering unsolicited and unwanted advices on my pregnancy is just plain infuriating especially when you know she don't know what she's talking about (it's not what she said it but how she said it). Sometimes I feel like she's suggesting to me (and others) that I won't be a good mother. Whatever, I don't need strangers assurance that I would do a good job. I know I'll make loads of mistakes in the future, but I have a great support system to ensure that it won't be continuous.

Anyway I feel so much better now :p I just hope that she won't push my buttons to the extend where I might clobber her head with a spoon. Anyway exercising patience is a good early training for Beanie.Hope you'll have a positive and productive day ahead everyone....
P/s: Baby update coming as soon as I'm able to snap a pic of Beanie's latest scan picture. Tune in!!

5 comments:

Sha said...

You know what will kill this kind of morons? Just ignore!

i am a mummy said...

ah. sumpah gej kalau ade org sebok2 mcm ni. mcmla diorg tu bagus sgt. been there before. i tau susah nk ignore sbb gej n it's a good thing u blogged about it./ at least lapang dada. tke cre!

najwa said...

well far, we met dis type of piple throughtout our life..
da best thing like sha said just ignore..n maybe sometimes pekok je kat kepala org tue..
huhuhuhuh..well piple, they wanna give advice cuz they think they knw everything but sometimes the way they say it tue yg salah..if cara diorang bgtau tue boleh diterima n does not sound like kritikan i think we r more acceptable, tp if da way they say it mcm arahan or kutukan obviously geram..anyway its just part n parcel in life..u just have 2 live with it..i hope with ur experience now, beanie will learn fr u how 2 handle these type of peepskan..huhuhuhuhu..so b patient mummyyy 2 b..sedap jer i nasihat kat org kan..:P

~f@R~ said...
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~f@R~ said...

Sha: Heheh I agree with you.

Rinie: ah ah sangatlah gej orang ni, I malas nak give her the satisfaction that she got to me, so I rather blog about it. Thanks dear & give Dani a kiss for me :)

Rajoo: yeah everyone listen to Kel-Wa's wisdoms...